What Kind Of Person Do I Want To Be? – 6 Vital Questions To Ask Yourself

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I’m writing this post at the start of a new year because, if I’m honest, I’ve always been a fan of setting new resolutions and reflecting on everything that happened within the previous 12 months.

Plus, I think reflecting on what we’ve done with the time that’s passed so far is a good way to remind yourself of what’s important to you.

You see, between school, a 9-5 job, and life’s daily responsibilities, I think it’s easy to put life on autopilot sometimes and to become complacent.

Similarly, if you’re younger and just getting started, you might also feel like there’s a series of set actions you have to follow, and that any deviation from the norm is an absolute failure.

However, sometime I think it’s important to stop and ask yourself: what kind of person do you want to be?

Life moves fast, and in my opinion, figuring out who do you want to be is one of the main questions people should continually asking themselves as they age.

Now personally, I’m still grappling with this question.

And that’s exactly why I’m writing this post.

Today, I’m going to outline some of the areas of life I’ve been thinking about to answer the question of what kind of person do I want to be?

Hopefully, if you’re grappling with the same topic, this list of questions gets your ideas flowing!

Who Do You Want To Be? – 6 Important Questions To Ask

I’m breaking down a list of questions that are good to ask yourself regularly if you’re trying to figure out what kind of person you want to be.

You can ask reflect on these questions every year, or more often if you want.

Hopefully, the answers provide some guidance into the type of life you want to live and the person you’re becoming!

1. What Are Your Values?

If you’re trying to figure out what kid of person do you want to become, I think it’s good to list out what your core values are for a sort of “baseline” to work off of.

Examples of values you can consider include:

  • The importance of family and friends.
  • Being loyal.
  • Being truthful.
  • Being a gentleman.
  • Having a strong sense of community.
  • Placing value in your work ethic.
  • Taking action against injustice.
  • Always being optimistic.
  • Being spiritual.


This is just an example of values you might have. You can also checkout this list of core values for more ideas on what’s important to you.

Ultimately, your values help guide your actions, which then influence what life you have and the type of person you become!

You can think about this question, but I suggest writing them out in a nice leather notebook or journal where you keep these sorts of life goals.

2. Where Do You See Yourself In 5-10 Years?

This is another awesome question you can ponder to figure out who you want to become in life.

However, I think it’s also important to get real specific rather than keeping goals more general.

For example, your first inclination might be to say “I want to be rich,” or “I want to be happy.”

But, you need to define what these things mean to you.

Here are some more specific questions you can think about:

  • What kind of lifestyle do you want to live?
  • What sort of work-life balance makes you happy?
  • Do you want to live where you currently do, or somewhere else?
  • How do you plan to keep family in your life as you grow older?

This is one of the main things I’m trying to figure out right now as a 20-something-year-old dude.

However, I think this question is worth revisiting regularly since goals can change!

3. Who Do You Spend The Most Time With?

As the saying goes, “you are the company you keep.”

Or, as another saying explains: “show me who your friends are and I’ll tell you who you are.”

The logic behind these sayings is pretty strong…After all, if you spend a majority of your time with a certain group of people, it’s only natural for you to adopt their tendencies, thinking patterns, and life goals.


So, if you’re asking yourself what kin of person do you want to be, look at the people you spend the most time with.

Do you want to be like them?

Or does that idea upset you?

If you’ve never thought about this idea before, the answer could be surprising.

4. What Are You Most Grateful For?

Another thinking exercise that’s important is considering what parts of your life you’re already grateful for.

The reason for this is because nothing is garaunteed, so you should recognize what’s important to you now to ensure you protect and nurture those things as you get older.

Examples of things you might be grateful for include:

  • Your health.
  • Your friends and family.
  • Your financial freedom.
  • The ability to travel/take vacations.

Whatever the case, make note of the best parts of your life and ensure you don’t forget them while you figure out what kind of person you want to be.

5. What Makes You Get Out Of Bed In The Morning?

This is probably one of the questions I’m struggling with the most at the moment, but it’s also an important one.

And I’m not talking about basic things like making breakfast or having to go to work.

I mean what gets you excited to get up in the morning and get your day going?

Is it a new business idea? Or seeing your friends and family?

Oftentimes, I think the things that make us excited are an indicator of the path we should follow, so trust your gut and go get them!

6. Who Do You Admire?

One final question you can ask if you’re wondering “what kind of person do I want to be?” is to think about the type of people you admire.

Maybe it’s celebrities, or professional athletes.

Or, perhaps you’re fascinated with some of the coolest people in history, or certain scientists and innovators.

One cool guy.

Whatever the case, list out some figures and think about why you admire them.

What values do those people have that you find admirable? What did they accomplish with their life that makes them stand out to you?

Once you write down a few figures, you’ll probably find there’s a common theme as to why you look up to certain people.

Extra Reading – 50+ Quotes For Becoming A Better Man.

Final Thoughts

Well, there you have it!

If you’re struggling to decide what kind of person you want to be in life, I hope these questions get the ball rolling.

Honestly, I’ve found that my own answer to this question has changed a lot over the last few years…but, if anything, this is a good thing.

Life is dynamic, and certain life stages have a lot of turbulence to them.

However, as long as you keep your head on a swivel and also plan for the future, there’s no reason why you should get knocked off track.

Thanks so much for reading!

Hopefully, you now have a better understanding about who you want to be in the future.

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